Hey there, boundary explorers! Ever wondered what exactly boundaries are and why they matter? Let’s dive into this playful journey of self-discovery and learn how to protect our space with finesse.
What Are Boundaries? Boundaries are like the side effects of having your desires and needs met. Picture this simple example: You clearly express your desire to have eggs for breakfast. The desire is communicated, evaluated and agreed on. It seems clear that any other suggestion after the fact, is a violation of an established boundary. Simple, right?
Now, let’s talk about the sneaky games people play to test your boundaries. Ever had someone pretend to fulfill your desire just to see how you react? It’s a tactic to gauge how far they can push you. Crafty, huh?
The Detour Dilemma: Imagine you’re eager to get home early to dive into your creative haven. Your partner notices and decides to detour to a couple of cute places on the way, all in the name of “seizing the moment.” Hours pass, your creative window closes, and voila! Your boundaries have been subtly crossed.
But here’s the kicker—together you celebrate the great day you had together, all while they’re quietly reveling in the victory of diverting your attention. Sneaky, right?
The Creative Art of Boundaries: Establishing boundaries is a creative process. It’s about stepping out of your comfort zone and returning to your core. Here’s the catch: many of us become pros at moving away from ourselves gracefully in the pursuit of harmony or being liked.
So, how do you avoid feeling violated and used?
A) Define Your Values:
- Know what truly matters to you. Your values are the compass guiding your boundaries.
B) Define Your Needs:
- Unpack what you need for a thriving existence. Both parties in a partnership should have their needs met for it to work.
C) Voice Your Needs:
- This is the secret sauce. Communicate your needs clearly in every situation. It’s a game-changer.
Sure, it’s not a walk in the park, especially when your self-esteem is entangled with being liked. The temptation to be agreeable is real. But here’s the truth: constantly seeking approval without voicing your values and needs is a setup for being misled.
So, fellow boundary adventurers, let’s play the game of defining and protecting our space with gusto. Your values matter, your needs matter, and your voice matters. Ready to embrace the art of boundaries? 🚀✨ #Boundaries #SelfDiscovery #EmpowermentJourney 🌈
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